It seems to me that as a society we don’t value our mothers and children enough. It may be that some people are not meant to be parents but I’m not convinced. If we could give good financial and emotional support to new parents, I believe most people who conceive a child, could parent them adequately and without the trauma that separating a child from their mother would cause. I believe that such separations should be rare and that only orphans need parents not related to them. Best for those would still be extended family willing to give them basic support.
In a Facebook group I belong to – Adoption:Facing Realities – I was made aware of this and it goes right along with my statement above. Within my own family’s experiences, it was always financial.
LANDMARK DONALDSON ADOPTION INSTITUTE STUDY REVEALS FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES, SOCIAL PRESSURES AND LACK OF SUPPORT – ALL FACTORS IN DECISION-MAKING FOR EXPECTANT MOTHERS
Much of the information that adoption professionals reported discussing with new expectant parents focused on adoption-related concerns rather than full consideration of all of the parents’ options. Less than half of adoption professionals specifically mentioned discussing information related to parenting their child or methods for helping expectant parents’ problem-solve how this might occur.
Recommendations included –
Mandate that adoption agencies and adoption attorneys must provide expectant parents with a standardized, informed consent that details the possible outcomes associated with relinquishment of parental rights to a child for adoption, as well as potential outcomes that the child may experience.
And this has come to my attention as well –
That pre-matching expectant parents with prospective adoptive parents can have an explicit negative and coercive effect on their decision-making.
Mature adoptees and original mothers continue to speak out in order to make a better tomorrow for more children.
Missing Mom 