Adoption is trumpeted today as a universal good thing. For infertile couples who wish to have a family, it is a solution. For religious organizations and fellow-travelers, agencies that use the mantle of religion – it is STILL a BUSINESS.
What is rarely talked about is the long-term mental and physical effect of surrendering a baby to others for adoption.
One expects short-term grief.
What of the long-term lasting impact – 4, 25 years later ?
We go on, have lives and live a code of silence with a toxic aftermath continuing.
Mothers compelled to search for their children are prone to lowered self-esteem, anxiety and worry about the child, required more doctor visits and attributed their physical and mental problems over the years to the adoption.
Many had parental pressure to surrender their child to adoption.
They had little or no emotional support during the pregnancy and relinquishment.
There were few or no opportunities to talk about their feelings related to the surrender and there was a lack of social support for their depression.
We should care more about mothers and their children as a society.