I am a person of faith in a Divine Order to the Universe. I do believe everything happens for a reason. Even so, that does not absolve us from an evolution into doing “better”.
There are adoptive parents who reassure themselves that God has broken up a family in order for them to have one, when they are unable to do so naturally. Nothing could be further from the truth.
However, there are situations where children are left adrift from the people who caused their birth.
Adoption is intended to provide a healthy and stable environment when contrasted with the foster care system. The idea is to place children so that they can be loved unconditionally and have a family of their own. That last thought is problematic. One needs to define “family”.
Family is defined as a group of people who are closely related to one another (by blood, marriage or adoption); kin; for example, a set of parents and their children; an immediate family. Adoption is therefore one of the avenues for “creating” a family. Even so, an adoptive family is not equivalent to a natural family. This is a reality.
Adoptive parents are never going to be equivalent to natural parents. This is simply a fact and one that anyone contemplating adoption needs to consider. Babies are not the blank slates they have been considered to be throughout decades. They are born with factors inherited from their natural parents already in place and effects from having been in their mother’s womb.
Society needs to do better on a lot of fronts. Family preservation and support for a struggling family is one of those fronts.