What is it that a hopeful adoptive parent is seeking ? For many, they can’t conceive naturally and really want to parent. It is much more about what they want, than what the child needs. Many children who are adopted didn’t actually need to be. Their mom’s were NOT well enough supported to make the choice to raise their child that almost every mother would.
So what’s with changing the child’s name and cutting all ties to their original family ?
It is an attempt to create a fiction. A fiction that the child was born to you and is related to you as much as they would be if you had birthed them yourself.
In cutting ties, it is an attempt to erase the origins of the child.
Who do these actions really serve ? The adoptive parents or the child that they adopt ?
If it truly served the child’s needs they wouldn’t go searching for information and even contact with their original family if it didn’t matter to that child. Just saying . . .
Missing Mom 