A woman writes – Feeling so selfish. I want to keep my baby. I’ve been matched with a family. But now I feel my baby kicking. Also, my life is getting better and I want to keep my child. What do I do, please tell me ? They’ve paid my rent and helped me out. I don’t want to be selfish. I have grown so much in love with my unborn. This prospective adoptive family is well off financially. I am troubled by thoughts that they cannot possibly love my baby more than I do.
Right off – No one will ever love your child better than you. Ever.
Keep your baby, and block the adoption agency, don’t answer calls don’t sign anything, heck change your phone number if necessary. Your baby, not theirs. They will be able to steal another baby, don’t put yours thru that.
No, they cannot possibly love your baby more than you do. I am adopted and I ache for my birth mother daily and I’m 26 years old with two kids of my own.
It’s not selfish to keep your baby from experiencing adoption trauma.
No “open adoption” agreement is legally binding.
Forget about this couple, any baby will do.
From a birth mom – I wish I hadn’t let those around me pressure me into feeling like I “owed” someone else MY son.
Having more money does not mean they can be better parents to your child.
No one paying your rent or for anything else is entitled to your baby because of it.
They have a motive and that motive is self serving and is totally selfish. None of it is in the best interest of your child.
Their disappointment will fade, your love will only grow. Do the best for you and your baby.
I’ve mentioned this organization before and will mention them again because they have helped so many women keep and therefore raise their own babies – Saving Our Sisters. They are dedicated to supporting all members of expectant families who are considering adoption to NOT apply a permanent decision to a temporary situation.