Babies ?

With the state of the world, it is understandable that many young people are NOT planning to have children. My oldest son has said that with conviction and he has proven over the years that he does know his own trajectory in life.

I do understand the enormous responsibility of bringing children into this world. I also do have 2 grandchildren. My thoughts today were triggered seeing an article in the current issue of Time by Jamie Ducharme titled “Baby Talk”. Reddit has a group titled “fence sitters” – people who aren’t sure whether they want to have children. It is a group of over 70,000 members.

In a footnote of a draft opinion on abortion access, Supreme Court Justice Samuel Alito quoted from a 2008 government report on the demand for adoption in the U.S., which used the phrase, “domestic supply of infants.” Posts on social media critical of the opinion have misleadingly suggested that Alito himself came up with the phrase. The 2008 Report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention said “… nearly 1 million women were seeking to adopt children in 2002 (i.e., they were in demand for a child), whereas the domestic supply of infants relinquished at birth or within the first month of life and available to be adopted had become virtually nonexistent.”

According to the Time article – “About a third of US adults under 35 who don’t already have kids say they don’t know whether they want them, and only 21% people in that age group say having kids is very important for living a fulfilling life, according to 2024 statistics from Pew Research Center. A stunning half of US adults under 50 who don’t already have kids think they’ll stay child-free forever. Most say they simply don’t want kids. But financial strain and concern about the state of the world and the environment are also common reasons, according to other Pew data. People are feeling so much angst about when, how and whether to procreate that new psychological concepts have emerged to help make sense of how people make these decisions.”

When one throws into the mix Republican panic about demographic changes, it explains a lot about their perspectives. From an article at the Case Western Reserve website by Girma Parris PhD titled LINK>The Republican Party and Demographic Change –

Since before the turn of the millennium, many commentators have argued that long-term demographic change, especially the shrinking proportion of “white” voters, would create a Democratic majority in U.S. politics. This analysis explicitly referred back to Kevin Phillips’ 1969 The Emerging Republican Majority, which argued that the Democratic embrace of civil rights would move white southerners and some of the northern white working class, and so the balance of power, into the Republican column. The Republican choice to become (or allow themselves to be seen as) mainly a “white” party was in spite of arguments among some Republican campaign professionals, especially after the 2012 election, that the party needed to increase its appeal to growing demographic groups. In spite of such appeals, the nomination, election, and subsequent domination of the party by President Donald Trump appear to have doubled down on making the Republicans a party dominated by white voters – and the Democrats something different.

From a reforming adoption perspective, maybe it is all good news. Banning abortion may NOT be enough to reverse that trend nor will it result in an increase in the domestic supply of infants relinquished at birth or within the first month of life. Young people don’t want to have to make that choice. And adoptee voices are loud and clear about the damage that being given up can cause for the rest of that child’s life.

6 Months After

It’s still too early to know all of the ramifications of overturning Roe. My state of Missouri was quick to claim the first out of the gate to overturn any right to have one. It is said the decision had a definite effect on the midterm elections. Kansas was an early surprise.

What impact has the overturning had on adoption ? After all, more than one Supreme Court Justice covered their decision by praising adoption. LINK>Good Morning America has a piece that takes a look at this.

Research on abortion and adoption shows that, in reality, there is not a clear line between adoption and abortion as equal options. “The idea that adoption is going to be an alternative [to abortion], that’s not borne out in what we see people already deciding. That’s not what they want for their lives, and their children’s lives,” according to Gretchen Sisson, a sociologist and researchers at the Advancing New Standards in Reproductive Health program at the University of California San Francisco. Among women who are denied abortion services, over 90% of them choose to parent versus choosing adoption, according to data from LINK>The Turnaway Study, which tracked nearly 1,000 women for five years.

According to Sisson, the data shows that adoption is a “rare decision to make,” while abortion is by comparison a “far more common” decision women make. In 2020, 620,327 abortions were reported in the US, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which collected data on every state aside from California, Maryland and New Hampshire. That same year, there were an estimated 19,685 non-stepparent, private domestic adoptions in the US, according to the National Council for Adoption, an adoption advocacy organization. “Adoption is almost always a constraint. It’s what happens when people feel they don’t have another option, when parenting is so impossible, so untenable, so unsupported, that people will turn to adoption purely as a way of surviving and ensuring their child’s well-being,” said Sisson. “And if you remove abortion as a legal option, more people will relinquish when they feel that they can’t parent.”

Exploiting the poor to increase the supply of adoptable babies ? That has seemed to be the intent from the Supreme Court Justices. Sisson estimates that new abortion bans enacted post-Roe will increase the number of infants available to adopt each year by as many as 10,000. “You’re talking about a relatively small number compared to the number of people that are going to be parenting children that they didn’t intend to parent,” said Sisson. “But you’re talking about a massive number when looking at the overall rate of adoption.”

Rory Hall, executive director of Adoption Advocates, a Texas-based adoption agency, said the agency has not yet seen a noticeable increase in women opting for adoption amid heightened abortion restrictions in the state. She said that while she believes infant adoptions will increase, she does not believe they will increase as much as anticipated because adoption is such a “hard” option. “Our biology tells us not to do it, and emotionally it’s just so hard to do that,” Hall said of adoption. “I think most people, if they would terminate the pregnancy but can’t, are going to try to find a way to parent.” She continued, “With that said, there’s going to be some that are just in a position where they can’t no matter what, and will choose adoption.” Hall said of increased abortion restrictions, “I think it’s going to weigh even more on our foster care system. My concern is we already have so many kids in [foster] care … and that will increase, probably exponentially, as each year goes by, and so I worry about those kids.”

Increasing The Supply

I did think this – immediately. That banning abortion is meant to increase the number of babies available for adoption. Actually, I’ve thought this for some years as I have learned more about the traumatic impacts of separating children from their biological parents and have generally turned against the practice, even though but for adoption, I would not exist.

When I was doing my own family roots journey, I contacted the Salvation Army in El Paso TX because I knew my dad had been adopted from there. They told me that they closed their home for unwed mothers after Roe v Wade because they had no clients to serve. Very revealing. Three out of nine justices on the Supreme Court have adopted children. Adoptive parents are very influential when it comes to laws related to adoption as they are the ones who have the money. They are the ones who wish to keep an adopted person’s information away from them and hidden away in a sealed file.

An adoptee friend of mine who didn’t even know she was adopted into well into her adulthood as that had been hidden from her, a family secret, wrote – “Domestic supply of infants?” I guess they want to restart the supply chain, no matter how wrong that may be, how harmful to parents, family, the person who ends up being funneled into the system. She added –

Note there are no safeguards being proposed for the people who will be forced into that system. No additional funds for sex Ed, contraception. No requirements for men to take greater responsibility, no requirements for prospective adoptive parents to undergo evaluations, education and ongoing therapy. No after adoption services. No additional services for people forced to give birth. No aftercare services for people who lose their children to adoption. No acknowledgment of the fact that the majority of states will be erasing the children’s identities and severing them from family and community. No. Just an acknowledgment that there isn’t enough supply to meet demand.