It may seem harsh but for a lot of adoptees, the giving up was a betrayal.  The handover that can be felt by the adoptee, continually felt throughout their life.  The rejection.  The abandonment.  The unanswerable questions.

It is a forever loss – permanent.

Even in the pre-verbal infant – adoption – is “remembered” on an emotional, cellular level.  This in turn causes lots of behavioral and self-worth related issues.  Often the adoptee can not explain why they feel as they do.  Why they act out like they do.  Their anger is in a very deep place that cannot be released because the adoptee is unable to express the emotional context of their feelings in language.

It is impossible to proclaim adoption good or bad in all circumstances.  There are true orphans and then there is the exploited single mother.  There is the profit motive to take her baby and sell it to a couple who has the means to meet the demanded price.

All children are priceless but the adoptee has been priced and that price paid, not only by the adoptive parents but by the original parents and their kin – and most especially, always, by the adoptee’s own self.