Adoption is traumatic. I don’t care who you are or where you came from. In 99% of cases, these kids would choose a shit life at home with their real parents vs their adoptive parents.
The “got ya” attitude reeks of a savior complex. Why do you need to celebrate?
Their parents failed for some reason. They lost their parents that day. It is not the time to wear tacky shirts for BS likes from all your church friends. It’s tacky. It’s trashy and only serves you.
If you wear those god awful shirts you’re serving yourself and further traumatizing your new child with all the photos you’ll take to commemorate this.
Those signs for kids out of foster care are also clueless and without true feelings because kids in foster care don’t think like that. Those X amount of days since they were in foster care is the remembrance of the day their trauma started. Don’t memorialize it !!
Even adoptees who were adopted as early as 7 days after birth, hate their birthdays because that was the day they were abandoned.
Just don’t do it. In either case, these are not a day of celebration for the child at the center of the reason.