I could sound like a broken record stuck on repeat but here goes anyway.
Society’s first priority should be the support of and encouragement for natural families. I was reading today about how many churches have programs to assist those persons who provide foster care or are adopting a child with all kinds of useful items. Why don’t we do this for struggling families ? Particularly now with the economic impacts of the COVID pandemic, when people are being evicted, worried about feeding their families due to a loss of income or expecting the electricity, gas and/or water to be cut off anytime. It is bad enough that looking for one’s weekly grocery items feels like living in a third world country instead of what we had thought of the United States as – a first world country – but it seems we have lost that standing to greed and corruption at the top of the government and among the wealthiest citizens.
Okay, enough of my political rant but really ? Check out this wish list recently posted by a church for new foster parents to help them “get by” –
Lots of food of all kinds. For example, gift cards to restaurants, fast dinners like Bertoli pasta bags, frozen pizzas, PF Chang’s frozen dinners or even ready to eat, hot meals delivered throughout the first two weeks. Lots of requests for babysitting options such as volunteers that can come and watch the kids while you run errands, provide the freedom for a date night out, or a day of rest or time to enjoy adult activities, maybe even just take a nap or be quiet for an hour. A full house deep clean from a local cleaning company or maid service. Car detailing, “movie night” (dvd or Redbox code, popcorn, candies/snacks), board games, amazon gift cards and gas cards (for all the appointments). A deal with a furniture store for a percentage off of bunk beds, dressers, lamps, etc. Gift cards for lessons to whatever… swim, music, baseball, haircuts, lawncare, homecare/maintenance, bug man, carcare/maintenance, pretty much anything a regular family would need/use.
Notice something ? A pattern is emerging. It all about the adults, the parents, and not about the traumatized children placed with them. And wouldn’t a struggling family be content with less frivolous luxuries ? The priorities of charitable people need to be reconsidered and revised to help families stay intact, instead of tearing them apart.