One said – “It’s rough out there.” And shared a quote from Marian Keyes – who is an Irish novelist and non-fiction writer, best known for her work in women’s literature – “I think there is pressure on people to turn every negative into a positive, but we should be allowed to say, ‘I went through something really strange and awful and it has altered me forever’.”

One adoptee wrote – My friends don’t post things like this. I don’t feel safe with people who promote adoption, so we aren’t friends.

One person noted the heart/word image above is “the Narcissistic view of adoption.”

Another person notes – I typically say something like: This is one viewpoint, which can look really beautiful, but we can’t forget how it looks for others on the opposite side of the adoption triad – which is loss, separation trauma, and a lifetime of questions and possible deep hurting. Then she says, it typically gets me blocked or unfriended, but I don’t care. I’m tired of the fairytale narrative.