The online matching sites are proliferating.
Most of what hopeful adoptive parents want to call a scam – simply isn’t that. It is a factor of market dynamics when the demand FAR exceeds the supply.
It’s usually –
“She was talking to other hopeful adoptive parents, therefore, it’s a scam.”
“She ghosted us, so it must be a “scam.”
“She blocked us, clearly it was a scam.”
“She never contacted our attorney, so it was always a scam.”
Do you seriously expect an expectant mom considering adoption to “settle” on the very first person she talks to on the internet?
If she posts in a “matching group”, you do realize that literally hundreds of hopeful adoptive parents are going to show up in her inbox within minutes?
If she contacts you because she sees you begging for a baby online, do you think you’re the only ones she has available to contact?
Do you really expect her to contact your attorney within days?
I’m not in favor of expectant mothers giving up their infant without first trying their darnest to parent.
So, I don’t agree with the idea of all these matching sites in the first place.
I think advertising yourselves wanting a baby is tacky and despicable – but if you’re going to do so, could you at least stop feeling so damn entitled and thinking everything that doesn’t immediately go your way must be a scam?
Realistically, it’s 99% impossible to be scammed in adoption – IF you do things legally, ethically and don’t let your selfish desire for a baby override your own common sense.
Sorry, but I don’t feel sorry for any hopeful adoptive parent who either gets “scammed” or believes without any good cause they were just because they didn’t get what they were hoping for. In this life, as the song lyrics by the Rolling Stones describe, “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you get what you need.”