Love Is Staying Home

This blog is really NOT as frivolous as it may appear.  It really is a matter of life and death.  I will admit that this is easier for my family than it is for most people living in this modern world.  We live in rural isolation and have always worked from home and our children have been educated at home.  In this scary new reality we have been thrust into globally, I see the blessing of what has always been our reality.

True, there have been some changes for us too.  My yoga class has been cancelled indefinitely.  Some non-essential medical appointments must be cancelled as they come up and re-scheduled though those future dates may have to be yet again postponed and re-scheduled.  New rules at the grocery store that limit the number of customers allowed inside at any given time will make the weekly trip to replenish supplies take longer.  And of course, there is the mask, googles and gloves needed to protect not only me but the other people I will have some INDIRECT contact with who could become infected if I am asymptomatic.

There are families unlike my own that are not used to so much togetherness time.  This is a worry.  Stressed parents could become abusive towards their children or married couples separate because they discover they had less in common than they believed when they first married.  There are financial difficulties with the sudden cessation of business activities.  There is a need to prepare one’s meals at home and some people have lost that skill.

The common good.  It may be that this virus has come to unite us.  We had become so polarized and divided and terribly tribal.  Not that being threatened with death is going to change all of that quickly.  Even so, we will come to see that overcoming the current circumstances will require a new perspective going forward.  This won’t happen quickly but there are some of us who are beginning the process of holding a vision of a better and brighter tomorrow in our heart’s minds for a trajectory going forward to guide us all.

Privacy Issues

The sad truth is sexual abuse is way too common in society and it has always been so.  That’s not to say we can’t all work to make things better and one of the ways we can make things better is to face the truth that it happens with an open heart and an understanding mind.

There are children removed from their natural parents when abuse is revealed.  Some of these children end up adopted.  Often if there are several siblings, they end up in a variety of homes.

Sometimes, enlightened adoptive parents become aware of how to reach these siblings who do not live in the home of the child they adopted.

A question sometimes arises, how to explain the cause of removal to the child they are parenting in an age-appropriate way.  A complicating factor could be the perspectives and desires of other adoptive or foster care or extended family (as in where the natural parents have divorced and remarried another person) when they do not want to reveal what any person deserves to know.

I wish adults never foisted their sexual impulses on children.  The reality is that it happens.  The question is how to reduce the incidence by the revelations of truth.  It may never be possible to end these horrendous acting outs on the part of some men but we can definitely make them less comfortable doing so.