One woman who gave up a child to adoption said – An adoptive mom watching a natural mom give birth gives off handmaiden’s tale vibes to me. The question that elicited this was – why do hopeful adoptive parents feel the need and expect to be in the delivery room ? Do you really need to see someone else’s baby born to raise it ?
Hard to believe but some go as far as getting a room and being in a hospital gown with their hair done to look like they gave birth. Then after the baby was born, had a photo made to appear that she gave birth. The one describing this goes on to say – She did this twice and took away babies from moms that honestly could’ve been good moms but according to someone close to this circumstance, it is believed the child protective services worker involved in these cases had been paid cash under the table. She said – Just thinking about it makes me ill. Prospective adoptive parents have no reason whatsoever to be anywhere near the hospital at the time of birth.
One adoptee said – they think we are like geese and imprint on the first thing we see. Another notes – to make the baby – as if – born to the prospective adoptive mom. Another says – when I hear an adoptive parent say they witnessed the birth of “their” child, I want to say, “No ma’am you did not!!! You violated another human beings rights by barging your way into her life to take her child!” Someone else notes that being there violates two people’s rights (the birth/first/real mother and newborn). God forbid a real mom has even a moment to just look at her baby and then decides to parent her baby ! It is a form of coercion.
In the realm of adoption reform – the adoptive parents would never be anywhere near the expectant mother when she gives birth. Also that she is allowed time with her baby before following through on such a life changing decision for both of them – one that may haunt her for the rest of her life and affect her baby in ways she may not be informed enough to understand.
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